"Jess, why did you defriend me?" Haha... I just have to laugh. I didn't defriend anyone, I just decided to unplug from Social Media for awhile, perhaps forever. Both Facebook and Twitter accounts have been closed and you know what... I don't miss it. I only have my Blog and Google + (Not quite sure what to think about the Google+ yet. Not many people are in my "Circles" and I'm ok with that.)
We live in a world where technology can be a blessing but also a burden. It can bring people together but on the flip side, it can and does tear people apart. I have experienced this first hand in my most recent relationship and break up. The Internet brought us together through a dating site and the Internet is the catalyst that tore us apart via Twitter no less. An innocent, heart felt, sincere "Tweet" turned into a month long silent battle. We were fighting yet no words were exchanged, only silence which quite possibly is worse than no words at all. Communication is key to any relationship yet we live in a world where no one is truly communicating anymore. Emails have replaced real letters. Texts have replaced phone calls. Tweets and impersonal messages on "Walls" have replaced true connections with people we truly care about. What ever happened to actual, face to face contact and communication? I can not tell you how many times I have been out with friends or on a date no less where the distraction of ones phone has interrupted a conversation. Apparently checking in on Facebook, or sending a Tweet or Text is more important than checking in with a friend, family member, or date. Nobody is "Present" anymore.
I decided to unplug from Social Media because I didn't like who I was becoming. I too was sucked into its vortex and at one point WAS that person who felt it necessary to check Facebook and update my status, or Tweet, or Text while out with a friend or loved one. I was also finding myself while "Catching up" on friends pages that I would become jealous of their lives. Babies, rings, and other little things prompted me to start to compare my life with theirs. It wasn't healthy. Then, dealing with a break up, that news travels fast and I didn't want my NEWS to be spread all over the Internet. Though people mean well and want to be supportive, I didn't want hurtful words to be said and then be seen by the one who I still care about.
So that is the reason behind my unplugging from Social Media. Maybe I will be back, maybe not. Right now I plan on focusing my energy on truly reconnecting with my friends, family and ones I care about the most. No better time than now.
4 comments:
Good for you. I've thought about doing the same. I try to never look at my phone when I am with someone. But yes, I understand all those other facets as well: time consuming and jealousy. It' so dumb. I wonder what we'll think about FB years from now maybe when the fade goes away?
I was going to say the exact same thing as Jessie: Good for you! I think we've all felt like detaching from the social media world from time to time, but I've never gone through with it. I feel too reliant on it these days, and that's very sad. So good for you!
oooh i hear ya. so easy to get sucked in. just wanted to let you know you won the give-away on my blog:) give me your address and i'll get that mailed out to your girlie.
Congrats on winning Farmgirl's giveaway!
As for unplugging I can understand your view point. I've actually found that since I had baby girl...my ability to get on Facebook is drastically less...and my desire almost as much so.
Unfortunately, I don't know that I could give it up. I think being military and moving makes it even harder for me to really stay in touch with everyone I want to except via Facebook!
I'm rooting for you though girl!!!
Biz
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